I was a bit upset that I learned about my grandson's surprise wedding via Facebook. What happened to family being involved, after all, aren't marriages a joining of families as well?
Not any more.
I still feel surprised about my learning about my grandson's wedding in this way. After all, he'd called when they knew they were expecting. He was quite excited about sharing that several months ago.
"You're going to be a Great-Grandma," he said.
They had already planned a big wedding on a cruise about this time, inviting all the family members. I declined due to health. Then they changed the date a year later to include the baby.
They also had purchased a new house together about a year ago moving from Tampa to near Pensacola.
The new house is closer to his step family, who he grew up with.
There's a step brother who's older than him, as well as his step-father who raised him after he was 9 months old.
My son didn't marry my grandson's mother. But that's probably his story to tell.
The story of my grandson's birth and being raised by a step-father that he thought was his real father, that's his to tell, I guess. He did meet my son and start having a real relationship with his birth father in the last 15 years at least.
Sunday this week was the day my granddaughter, Caroline graduated from college. My blood line is sure busy these days!
Our family is just like any other family. We fall in love, we fall out of love. We have children, they grow up. We're all just doing the best we can with what we know and have at the time.
I wish the newlyweds much happiness!
For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is to let it rain. |
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow |
These are interesting stories to tell or at least to allude to.
ReplyDeleteI had written more details about these two men, then realized if they ever read what I wrote, they might have been unhappy to say the least. So I've just summarized their relationships. I want them to still be able to be happy with whatever I say about them!
DeleteI, too, have stories to tell, that I WISH I could tell but are not mine to tell.
ReplyDeleteIn the meantime, congratulations to your grandson on his marriage and I wish happiness for them all.
I think all families have moments of quiet or trite answers to some questions. Parentage is kind of interesting to some of us, but others would rather not discuss it.
DeleteI understand tgat it would be upsetting to hear of the wedding in this way, Barb. Maybe they didn't want you to risk the trip? I dunno, but I have had nieces and nephews have weddings where no older relatives were invited, only the cousins that were around the same age. I guess they didn't want the old folks partying down!
ReplyDeleteI am not critical too much...just the announcement could have been a phone or text at least! Oh well. I may even send a wedding present!
DeleteWise advice, to let it rain. Perhaps one could even dance in it.
ReplyDeleteAh, and imagine the song and rhythm of Jean Kelly dancing too.
DeleteYoung people have really changed the norms. And I think Covid changed a lot more traditional ways of life. Congratulations to your grandson and his wife and best wishes to the new great-grandchild to be!
ReplyDeleteI remember when a friend called and told me she was expecting, it was a girl and the date she would be born. Kind of takes the fun out it to me.
I don't mind not knowing which gender the little one will be. I know my first wish is for it to be healthy. I still firmly believe births should happen when the child/womb decides it time to be born.
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