I've heard that listening to advice of your own, given to a younger yourself, is a bit of wisdom that would be useful. Of course that's assuming that your older self even exists...but of course we all think we'll live another year or two.
So now I have about another month of being 75. If I told myself 10 years ago anything, what would it be?
"Get out and do, whatever you're passionate about, just do it."
My advice comes from how the body just breaks down like stones on the bottom of the stream bed...the parts are wearing away gradually, and not noticeably until time gives you a jolt that that part is no longer doing what it has been all along.
In the last couple of weeks...
This is the list of things in my life, but it's not said in a complaining voice.
I've deal with loss of a loved one (I know, a cat may not be that much to anyone else, but the intimacy of living together for years does make a huge difference!) I'm still dealing with the death of two loved humans a few months ago.
I've had major testing to find out whether my insides are working, and the tests show nothing, but the symptoms still cause chronic pain. I have 2 other chronic conditions which require treatments twice a day.
And I've stubbed a toe resulting in a minor sprain of my ankle. And I've found bugs biting my body while sleeping under covers, which may or may not be bed bugs, but I've treated my whole house, my bed, my clothes and linens as if it is (which took a day of my life, but really needed that deep cleaning.)
And the rent is being raised because I can't deduct as many medical expenses for the last year as I did the year before. Basically, I never can save anything.
"Listen to this, 65 year-old Barbara. Take heed. You thought you were living frugally back 10 years ago, (2007) when you retired to Black Mountain NC from Florida. You gave away and threw away so much. Ha ha. Just think that in 10 years you will need almost none of those things you held onto."
Now if my 85 year-old self has anything to say, I'm listening!
With the way my life has been going, I think she will say, "Pay attention to your health while you have any (so to speak). Eat right, exercise as you can, and be friends with people who are walking similar paths to yours. Work on what's most important to you right at that moment. And be as creative as your heart desires! Don't edit so much...let go! And especially get off the computers and out into nature!"
I had lunch with some of those friends after church last week, and posed this question about advising my younger self from either now or in the future.
A couple of those friends are already older than I am, so I was interested in their thoughts. Several of them mentioned that its important to take care of yourself first, and then to offer care for others. "Make someone else happy by anything you can do."
I liked that. I forgot how much I do have to give others. Just listening, paying attention to them, and letting them know of things I happen to know.
Earlier in the day a woman shared that she'd just lost her mother and was very upset. I mentioned that I knew of a Grief Group here in Black Mountain, which meets monthly, and that I'd gotten a lot out of the time that I attended it, sitting around a fire pit and sharing with a small group. She looked it up on line, and now has another resource that she might use.
What does your older wiser self have to tell you?
